Speak to be heard

Speak to Be Heard and Hear to Know How to Speak – Peter Drucker once said, “The most important thing in communication is to hear what isn’t being said.” This is so true and extremely important because the quality of our relationships depends on the quality of our communications; and when it comes to sales for your business and growing your business through referral marketing, this concept is a cornerstone for success.

Many sales people face a phobia within the sales process, they are afraid of being rejected by a prospect or customer.  Sales ‘phobics’ might have an unrealistic fear of being rejected during cold calling, during the closing phase or on a phone conversation. This is because the phobic salesperson tends to focus their communication on the emotional fit between themselves and the customer. The real business of selling cannot begin until the sales phobic feels that the prospect likes him or her. To avoid this the professional seller directs her communication toward finding a fit between her product and the buyer’s need.  Focusing on being liked only enhances fears of personal rejection, while attending to the customers needs drives the transaction toward a closed deal.


Sellers in strong relationships with their clients have a competitive advantage because the client feels connected or bonded to the seller. The single most important tool sellers use to establish a connecting bond with another person is communication. In fact, building a bonded relationship is completely dependent on having quality communications with another individual.

The art and science of communication is more than talking and hearing words. There are many strategies and techniques aimed at earning the right to have your message heard. If you can communicate at a level that matches the customer’s style rather than your own, you will be well on your way to masterful sales conversations.

Masters of sales today assume more of a consultative perspective to their selling work. In fact many box retail stores use the term “sales consultant” to describe the store clerk of yesterday. Master sales consultants know that their ability to communicate is critical to selling client solutions, because rapport and trust, the cornerstones of selling, are built or lost based on communication.So what can you do this week to improve your communication skills in order to speak to be heard and hear to know how to speak (e.g. joining a Toastmasters club, reading books like Dr. Mark Goulston’s Just Listen, etc.)?  I’d love to hear your ideas in the comment forum below

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